I have news for you: If you feel worthless, it’s probably because you are.
You don’t hate yourself because you have low self-esteem, or because other people are mean to you. You hate yourself because you don’t do anything. – Jason Pargin
The only people who owe you respect and care regardless of your personal attributes are the people who love you unconditionally – your family and closest friends. Everyone else is going to judge you only by what you can give them, because people have needs and thus assign value to those who meet them (Pargin again).
If you create the identity of a person who deserves respect without the attributes to back it up, you’ll forever be susceptible to people who want to knock down your useless and fake self-perception because there is nothing supporting that self-perception.
Want that job? Become smart enough for it, become talented enough for it. Want beautiful women to go out with you? Become beautiful enough for them.
“But I don’t want to change who I am…” Stop it. If who you are is really who you want to be, you should be happy now. You can try to fool other people, but they won’t fall for it for long, and you certainly can’t fool yourself.
If you ever want to become somebody who can take care of herself and others and effect real change in the world, stop these empty reassurances. Stop telling them to each other. Stop telling them to yourself. They’re no different than doing drugs to numb the pain that comes from your inadequacy. It gets rid of it for a while, but it’ll come back. It’ll keep coming back until you truly make something of yourself.